About a year and a half ago, when I was going through a good deal of personal difficulty, I was extremely blessed to have friends who offered to help me in many ways that I could never repay. A good friend from work helped me sort things out at the office, another dear friend let me stay in her apartment and took care of my two cats, and numerous friends took my frantic calls at four in the morning. I don't know how I could have gotten through that time without help, and I feel extremely humbled by the generosity of those close to me.
I'm a person who prefers to do things by myself. Partly, it's the satisfaction of accomplishing something alone. But I must admit that a lot of it is the fact that I have trouble asking for help. I don't want to burden people with my requests, and I hate the feeling of putting someone else through trouble because of me. However, I've realized that sometimes, it's okay to ask for help.
Recently, a friend of mine asked me to take her to her post-op appointment. I'm so happy that she did, because it feels good to be able to do something to help. I think oftentimes, people want to help, but don't know that their help is needed.
How will I try to implement this into my life a little bit more? I'm going to proactively ask if my help is needed, and I'll try to ask for help in small ways. Adulting can be difficult, especially in New York, but helping one another makes it immensely better.